Officiant? Reverend? Minister? What does it all mean?

If I could, I would refer to myself as simply, "Celebrant Sharan".. but it just doesn't flow for everyone. You see, I officiate weddings in New York and parts of Connecticut and New Jersey. In these states, you must have been ordained and titled as such. When I was ordained I was asked if I wanted to be "Reverend" or "Minister" or (are you ready for this one) "father"!!
I chose the title of Reverend, but I introduce myself with my first name only. Some people love the title and want a religious ceremony. This is simple.. Reverend DePalma on her way! But what about the couples who truly want a non-religious wedding? How do I explain the title...?

It's actually very simple..I can call myself anything I wish other than Rabbi or Priest. (I am neither) When filling out the marriage license, I must be very clear about what type of ceremony has taken place. I take this role very seriously and make sure the license is filled out accurately and mailed back to the county clerk right away.

Recently a very sweet Jewish mother of the bride gave me a call. She said, "I am looking for an officiant who can marry a Jewish girl and a Catholic boy.. but I don't want religion involved." Well this is simple.. each wedding I create is exactly what the couple wants. I have to (by law) include two parts to the ceremony.. I must ask a question of intent and I must pronounce you. The rest is limited by your imagination. So don't let titles get in the way.. talk to your officiant- celebrant- minister- reverend friend to see if you fit.. and take it from there.

The single most important thing is that each couple feels comfortable and at ease with their vendors. Hey, I once had a florist say , "I'm an artistic floral designer, not a florist." Yikes. Here we go again.